Entries by Sally

Toxicity disguised as chemistry

Chemistry is often a sign of familiar unconscious toxic patterns connecting between 2 people Sure chemistry can be a good thing if we have a history of healthy relationships but so often chemistry ( especially without a sound emotional connection) is actually our internalized trauma conditioning aligning to another’s. When we keep attracting the same […]

He’s not in the mood, right?

I have experienced the silent treatment, the manipulation, the aggression because I wasn’t in the mood ! Pretty awful right ? Gosh the control. Eww those toxic connections 😟 Here’s the thing no one wants to have sex with someone who is unpredictable, angry, self serving, and cruel Maybe we can do it for a […]

Choose a partner who is easy on you

Nothing feels better than being with someone who is gentle with you, who is easy with you I have experienced toxic I have also experienced healthy love One thing that stands out is how easy it feels when you are treated well Having a partner willing to hold space for you Who supports you and […]

Can’t share your feelings? you’re not alone

Every time I opened my heart to share my feelings the relationship came to a grinding halt & it only got worse, he hated it He would invalidate my feelings & tell me it wasn’t as bad as I was saying, he would tell me I was too sensitive, over reacting, or the one liner […]

You matter, a lot

You matter … a lot ! Take that in my dear ❤️ The way you feel right now in this moment, the way you feel as you fall to sleep & awaken Your fears, your dreams, your worries, your happiness It all matters I want you to be your own best friend I want you […]

Desperately chasing is a trauma response

I spent years living like this Chasing love Needing love Wanting love I never realised that these desperate needs were a trauma response coming from my wounded child, desperately seeking to feel loved wanted safe Can you relate my loves ? Here’s the thing it’s not until we end up in certain relationship dynamics that […]

The sad truth is, they are not the best for you

The sad truth is the people that we fight to hold on to or the ones we chase are not the best for us. They usually represent our past, meaning energetically that persons behavior towards you triggers past memories in which you were not seen heard or validated? It may have been reoccurring or occasional […]

You need to see things as they are!

My loves I know how hard it is when you want things to be different, it’s hard to accept things as they are sometimes You hoped & wished things were different. You saw glimpses of what could have been a great relationship but you also saw the red flags over & over I know for […]

Stop trying to figure out if he’s interested!

Hello my loves, how much time have you spent trying to figure out if they are interested or not ? When they are you know it 💯 There is no second-guessing, no wondering, no anything other than their actions speak Hoping someone sees you means you are looking at the wrong person, so go where […]

He is never going to change!

He is never going to change ! How many times have you found yourself banking on the potential of person as opposed to seeing them for what they are? How many times do you ask yourself where the Hek do I stand with them? It’s a head trip right ? And yes it happens the […]